Many adults use daily affirmations to overcome obstacles of insecurity, poor self-esteem, lack of confidence, and more, or to maintain mental well-being and a positive attitude. Positive affirmations can transform our thought life, creating a positive internal dialogue. But what if we didn't wait so long? What if we'd received positive affirmations as children and learned a healthy inner dialogue from the start?
If we give our children daily affirmations now, they will grow up with a healthy internal dialogue and not have to face the challenge of changing their thought patterns in adulthood. Children, like all human beings, need to feel worthy and loved, appreciated and wanted.
I'm not talking about empty praise, but rather seeking out and speaking out all that is good in them. Some affirmations you may want to try are:
You are valuable to us.
You are so loved.
You are going to do great things in this world.
I'm so happy to have you.
We are lucky to have you in our family.
I will always love you, no matter what.
You can do anything you set your mind to.
The world is a better place because you're in it.
Your smile lights up my whole day.
I love to hear you laugh.
Your brother/sister is blessed to have you.
Your kindness and compassion amaze me.
You are a wonderful person.
Did you grow up hearing something like this every day? How would it have made a difference if you had?
You may be wondering what this has to do with the Yell-Free Year Challenge. Children who feel good inside, who have a positive self-concept, are better behaved. If they're behaving better, then you have less need to yell.
Positive affirmations can also be used in moments of frustration to calm you down.
Even though I'm upset right now, I love you so much.
Would you like some ideas to add even more positivity to your home?
1. Start a gratitude journal, and have your children start one, too. Even if they aren't old enough to write, they can tell you what they are grateful for and you can write it in their journal.
2. During the bedtime routine, talk about 3 "roses and thorns" from your day. A rose is something good that happened, and a thorn is something you didn't like. See if you can then find something positive about the thorn. This will help them to look for the positive in every situation. "I fell down today and really hurt my knee, but you got me a Band-Aid and that made me feel really cared for."
3. Get in a habit of saying "Do you know what's great about this?" all throughout your day. It will help you look for the positive and will teach your children to do the same. Having fun playing together? "Do you know what's great about this? We are having so much fun together!" Do you have a sink full of dishes? "Do you know what's great about this? We all ate good today."
4. Drop the agenda and turn up the music. Sometimes, you need to take a break from adult drudgery and just dance with your children. Do it at least once a week. Seriously.
Did you miss Post #1. Here it is!
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If you're new to Positive Parenting, we recommend getting The Newbie's Guide to Positive Parenting, and if you're looking for more concrete examples, Positive Parenting in Action provides you with over 40 scenarios and shows you how to handle them positively and peacefully.
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